Christian Values in Human Sexuality
Azusa Pacific University
Dr. Steve Gerali
January 20, 2005
"Sexual Values"

I.   Sexual Values are...
A.   Moral guidelines for sexual behavior (sexual values shape morality)
B.   Reflected in our identity & self-concept
1.   Rules of Attraction
2.   Gender Roles (masculine vs. feminine)
C.   Play an important role in mate selection (Myth #15)
D.   Biblical perspectives
1.   Extra-marital = adultery
2.   Promiscuous Sexual Activity before Marriage = fornication
II.   History of Sex
A.   Before the fall
1.   Sexual intercourse was viewed as good, but also minimalized (like scratching an itch vs. huge passion)
2.   Sexuality was viewed as good, it had to be since it was in the garden, but this created a lot of tension
B.   4th century – Marriage becomes "second class" as the serious Christians will abstain
C.   Middle Ages
1.   Sex and the Church was always at odds with each other through out the middle ages, but it was brought together with art
2.   It was during this time that clergy were forced to be celibate (despite 600 years of priests marrying)
3.   Sodomy (term created)
a.   Defined: masturbation, mutual masturbation, copulation between the thighs, copulation through the rear
b.   Sex is forced to be defined, in order to enforce codes of standards
4.   Sexual Fashion
a.   Cod piece – according to the church, was a fashion of the devil
b.   Chastity belt – in order to make sure the heirs (children) belonged to the husband
5.   Prostitution
a.   Prostitution rises as a acceptable profession that ensures women security (fall back job) as well as provides an overflow in order for men to meet his needs
b.   Church takes a huge stand against this
c.   Starts an even more intensified enforcement of acceptable sexuality
i.   All sexuality is wrong except for penile-vaginal sex
ii.   Even sex taking place with the woman on top was defined as sodomy, thus wrong by the church
iii.   Thomas Aquinas was a huge influence in this
D.   Renaissance
1.   Increase in intellectual and artistic influence in society
2.   Sexuality gets "re-thought," like all beliefs were
3.   Erasmus was a large influence during this time
a.   Honor was a huge issues that became central to the issue of sexuality
b.   Restraint was emphasized
4.   It was evident during this time that the vow of celibacy was not followed
5.   Martin Luther came along and, among other things, critiqued the issue of celibacy
a.   According to Luther, marriage was divinely implemented by God
b.   However, strict views of sexuality within marriage remained
III.   Sexual Ethics
A.   Absolutism (as related to sexuality)
1.   The belief system that is based on unconditional power and authority of science, law, tradition & religion
a.   Semen conservation theory: ejaculating was equivalent to bleeding because semen was life-giving and life-sustaining bodily fluid
b.   Science comes along and disproves this
2.   Holds to the belief that sex is wrong before marriage absolutely
B.   Relativism (as related to sexuality)
1.   A value system that deemphasizes sexual decisions should be made in the context of a particular situation; it is also referred to as "situational ethics"
2.   This is honestly more of a biblical perspective
a.   It was wrong for Tamar but alright for Judah
b.   David was allowed to have tons of wives
c.   No one stoned Solomon for his "extra-marital" affair with the shepherdess
3.   Modern day example: "if you love someone than its ok"
C.   Asceticism (as related to sexuality)
1.   Involves the belief that carnal lust is unnecessary and one must rise above the pursuit of sensual pleasure into a life of self-discipline & self-denial
2.   The main "biblical people" who support this perspective were the Gnostics
3.   The Bible spends a great amount of time refuting the beliefs of Gnosticism
D.   Hedonism (as related to sexual)
1.   Suggests that the ultimate value & motivation for human action lie in the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain
2.   This is the premise behind "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" (not sure I agree – but Gerali's stance is the premise of the book is the avoidance with pain)
E.   To error on either side (both too conservative and too liberal) is still to error – if God's way is the path we should be on, informing to abstain or consent when God informs otherwise is equally as wrong – "when in doubt: abstain" mentality is just as wrong
IV.   Sexual Values cannot be separated from Cultural Imprinting
A.   Ethnographer – a person descriptive study of an ethnicity or culture
B.   Ethnologist – a person who compares and contrasts two or more cultures
C.   Normal sexual behavior is defined by...
1.   Prevalence – how frequent does this occur
2.   Moral correctness – what is societies view of what is moral
3.   Naturalness – according to the church, "what produces offspring"
D.   Terminology
1.   Sexualized – using sex for everything
2.   Eroto-centrasism – ones own sexuality is the standard by which all sexual behavior is judged
3.   Cultural relativism – moral standards vary depending on the culture & person
4.   Practice
a.   Monogamy – One spouse
b.   Polygamy – Multiple spouses
c.   Concubine – Non-marital sex partner
d.   "-ectomy" – the removal of...
e.   Male
i.   Circumcision – Male-genital mutilation
ii.   Penile-supra Incision – Foreskin slit in order to open due to lack foreskins natural ability to expand/stretch during erection
iii.   Penile-sub Incision – basically their urethra is cut under the penis
iv.   Phanelam – bottom side of the corona of the penis
f.   Female
i.   Clitorectomy – the removal of the clitoris
ii.   Infibulation – the removal or closure of the labial minora
V.   Exegesis of Sex Passages
A.   Prov 5:15-20 – Sexuality is to be enjoyed, but the proper source is one's own wife(ves), "eat her out," implies sex is suppose to satisfying
B.   Ecc 7:26 – It pleases God to escape temptation and abide by sexual boundaries – look to other areas of scripture on the right/wrong way to do it (used as anti-sexual pleasure)
C.   Ex 20:14, 17 – (14) Marital faithfulness, (17) Desiring that which is not yours, coveting may have to play into the definition of lust
D.   Song 4:5, 10; 7:1, 6-10 – Extra-marital sexual passion and standards of beauty (shoots down the look at them like a "sister-in-Christ.") – this challenges us to think sexually – it is not the inability to think sexual images – it is not the ability to suppress erotica, or sexual stimuli (not all erotica is pornographic)
E.   Eph 5:25-33 – Meeting the needs (across the board) of your spouse as you would meet the needs of yourself – love to the point of sacrifice, love to the point of honor, love to the point of death
F.   Gen 2:24 – supernatural bond between husband and wife – becoming one is not the act of sexual intercourse (women at the well w/ Jesus for example) – becoming one is progressive, it continues through out life
G.   Eph 5:3-7 – the immorality of the ambiguous "world" of sexuality (does this apply to marriage or just extra-marital?) – obscene a perversion of what is right and true
H.   Hebrews 13:4 – Sexual relations is for the marriage bed, and there are standards to be kept (i.e. no adultery, pre-marital affairs, and certain sexual acts within the marriage bed)
I.   1Thes 4:3-8 – Self-control is the more honorable/devout practice, and sexuality almost has an element of "evil that needs to be controlled"
J.   1Cor 7:3-5 – Sexuality is mutual submissiveness, and this almost indicates what ever is acceptable between the man and woman, is holy and honorable to God, self-control is to be controlled by satisfying marital relations
K.   Prov 7:6-23 – Looking for sexuality (i.e. hanging out at her corner) is of wrong judgment, example of extra-marital and pre-marital