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Is It Time for Online Dating?

06/09/08

Permalink 12:52:54 am, by Andy Borgmann Email , 528 words
Categories: Relationships, Dating

Is It Time for Online Dating?

Online Dating - eHarmony vs. Match vs. ChemistrySo Allen comes to me this past week and says, "I think I want to do a show on online dating. Did you know there are over 1,300 online dating sites? What are you thoughts about online dating?" Before he even uttered all that, I knew this was going to be a topic where I was thrown under the bus. Sure enough, the topic title: "Is It Time For Andy to Use Online Dating."

If you have the time, listen to the whole show (30 minutes long). We had a good time. We had Les Parrott on there. Les is the founder of eHarmony marriage, and a very good friend of Dr. Neil Warren (the guy in the eHarmony commercials). Plus I got to play P!nk's U + Ur Hand and Avril Lavinge's Girlfriend as rejoins - and we all know I am weird and for some reason like chick rock.

But for those who don't have 30-minutes. Here are two clips.

Allen's Monologue

Andy's Questioning & Response

The best part was when Mike South, a porn producer here in Atlanta and friend of our show, e-mailed this:

I gotta tell ya, I had the pleasure of a lunch with Andy a while back and I think, that if a young lady is looking for a Good Christian man who isn't judgmental, who is smart and modestly decent looking. She couldn't go wrong with Andy...I know lots of girls would date Andy but It might not be a "good fit"

Is he saying I have a small penis? Seriously. I am calling you out Mike South. Although, you did say that I am modestly decent looking, so I'll call it even ;)

Here are my problems with dating in general:

  1. The older I get, the more "set" in my ways I become and the less I am willing to compromise.
  2. I am a very weird mix because on one hand faith is super important to me, but on the other hand, I do not fit the "stereotypical" Christian boy (hence the lunch with Mike South and countless other examples).
  3. I work super hard, find a lot of satisfaction in that, and am a borderline workaholic.

Here are my problems with traditional dating:

  1. I don't know who is single and who isn't (and I am a horrible judge of age).
  2. I typically can figure out exactly where the relationship would fail within 5 minutes of meeting someone (previous blog post about such ability).
  3. I hate church small groups. It's like the bar scene, except instead of awkward drunk conversations, you just have awkward theological conversations and/or are asked to watch VeggieTales.

Here is my problem with online dating:

  1. I don't want to have to tell the story for the next 50 years of my life that me and my wife met through a website some old dude created with his Ph.D. buddies.

So what's a boy to do? Seriously. I know I get about 300 visitors per post, so I want to hear from all you. Have you used online dating? Was it a good or bad experience? Would you ever use it or do you think it is an awful cop out?

8 comments

Comment from: Jared Wells [Visitor] Email · http://www.thewellsonline.com
"I was web before web was cool!"???

You and Al Gore have a lot in common.
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Man I wish I would have known about this show, I totally would have called in and commented.

You are an amazing man of God and I personally don't think you need to run off to eharmony and find this girl unless you are feeling desperate. I think God hears your prayers and will bring whom ever He has for you when it is time.

Not saying it is a bad thing, but if you were married or in a different place this last few weeks of your life it wouldn't be as easy to pick up and be flying and driving all over kingdom come.

If you feel like it is time to settle down and "find the love of your life" now, then go for it. But don't forget the pilot's lessons.
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I have not used eharmony, however my friends that met on E-harmony used to tell everyone they met on adultfriendfinder.com
PermalinkPermalink 06/09/08 @ 15:54
Comment from: Andy Borgmann [Member] Email · http://www.2timothy42.org
You and Al Gore have a lot in common.
We do. He has a private jet. I want a private jet.

I have not used eharmony, however my friends that met on E-harmony used to tell everyone they met on adultfriendfinder.com
That is freaking awesome!

Thanks for the encouraging words. I appreciate it. Although it should be reiterated (so I don't look like a loser) that Allen chose this topic and only "wrapped it around me" in order to be entertaining. I just don't want you to think I am in my home, balled up, crying every Friday night ;)
PermalinkPermalink 06/09/08 @ 20:38
Comment from: Justin [Visitor] Email · http://hotlantahottie.blogspot.com/
No, that usually happens on Thursday.
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/08 @ 07:58
Comment from: Andy Borgmann [Member] Email · http://www.2timothy42.org
No, that usually happens on Thursday.
First of all, you need to learn how to use blockquote. It took me 15 seconds to figure out what the heck you were referring to, and I am just to freaking important to be wasting that kind of time on your fatuous comments.

Second of all, Thursdays seem to be the nights we go to the Braves games, so am I balled up and crying before or after that ;)
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/08 @ 08:03
Comment from: Emily Michaud [Visitor] Email
Well, for starters I dont think advice from a porn producer is anything that should be taken to heart. It might just be me, but that doesnt sound like someone I would go to for relational advice. You should maybe try a preacher or someone on the opposite end of the spectrum. Secondly, sure you should try online dating. Ive heard great success stories. Why not give it a try? However, I would not discuss the size of your penis on it. Best of luck to you!
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/08 @ 17:11
Comment from: Andy Borgmann [Member] Email · http://www.2timothy42.org
Well, for starters I dont think advice from a porn producer is anything that should be taken to heart.
Yeah, good call. Although to Mike's credit, for a porn producer he's a pretty good guy (and I know he's out there somewhere saying for a Christian Andy's a pretty good guy).

Why not give it a try? However, I would not discuss the size of your penis on it. Best of luck to you!
Still not convinced. But appreciate the well wishes.
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/08 @ 17:18
Comment from: The Last Cainanite [Visitor] Email
Let me answer the question to start with: you should give it a try - you've got nothing to lose.

Plus I got to play P!nk's U + Ur Hand and Avril Lavinge's Girlfriend as rejoins -


Pink's song is good but that Avril chick neh. She's hotter too.


and we all know I am weird and for some reason like chick rock.


Hey, maybe you'll land a chick rocker as your next girlfriend. :)
I doubt they hang around Alpharetta much though.

Is he saying I have a small penis?


Well compared to some of the guys these girls works with, 95% of us do have a small dick.

I am a very weird mix because on one hand faith is super important to me, but on the other hand, I do not fit the "stereotypical" Christian boy


I've told you before that being religious should play in your favor as women tend to be more religious then us guys. So you have a statistical advantage. By the way, what's a "stereotypical Christian boy" like?

1. I don't want to have to tell the story for the next 50 years of my life that me and my wife met through a website some old dude created with his Ph.D. buddies.


In 50 years "web sites" will probably be as quaint as mimeographs are today. Don't worry, your "meeting grandma" story will be appropriately old fashioned for your grandkids.

PermalinkPermalink 06/14/08 @ 10:42
Comment from: The Last Cainanite [Visitor] Email
Lmao about adultfirendfinder.


Second of all, Thursdays seem to be the nights we go to the Braves games, so am I balled up and crying before or after that ;)


All the more reasons to ball up and weep I guess.


Well, for starters I dont think advice from a porn producer is anything that should be taken to heart. It might just be me, but that doesnt sound like someone I would go to for relational advice. You should maybe try a preacher or someone on the opposite end of the spectrum.


A preacher is the last person I would go for relational advice personally. A porn producer might be a better bet. At least they (unlike preachers) don't pretend (or make themselves believe) that what they are selling is not fiction.
PermalinkPermalink 06/14/08 @ 10:47

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    Andy is the Producer of The Allen Hunt Show; a progressive, talk radio show based in Atlanta, GA aimed at bringing faith back into the public discussion. And enjoys travel, aviation, web design, politics, friends, and faith. He holds that the secret to a full life is loving God and loving people - which he fails at constantly.

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