Andy's Blog
Yes, I know I know, I am doing another "Why I Am Single" post. You are probably getting sick of it. But instead of blaming women, or my dad (which actually were both blaming me, just using the others as examples as to what is wrong with me), this one I am blaming myself directly.I was recently reading on Newsvine the 10 Reasons Why Smart Guys Are Not Successful With Women. And before Sarah or someone else pipes in and calls me a conceited bastard for thinking I am smart, I was in the top 90th percentile on my SATs, so at least I am a documented conceited bastard. But I digress.
Nine of the ten reasons I thought were crap, but one hit a little too close to home.
Reason #4: They Psych Themselves Out
Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me They come up with all the reasons why everything wont work when it comes to women and dating. They actually figure out why what it is that they would like to do will probably fail
BINGO! I totally sympathize with this. Now I commented on this on Newsvine and someone suggested that I ask 30 girls on dates in 30 days. But I thought, this isn't good advice at all. I don't have a confidence issue (remember, I am a conceited bastard), and I have no problem conversing with "new girls." I don't even really have a problem asking girls out (and being rejected). But even if that were the problem, how does going on 30 dates help that problem. It just postpones the inevitable. Sooner or later I'll figure out why this relationship just can't work and then leave it.
I think one of the reasons I am single relates to why I have a hard time with religion sometimes: I suck at faith and lack of control. There is a certain degree of faith involved in starting a dating relationship. You have to be able to say, hey, I don't have all the answers but I am going to have faith that it will work out.
Jesus said that the best faith is a childlike (not childish) faith, and I think that is true with love. The best example of childlike love is found in 1Corinthians 13:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
In the end I think I need to step out in faith and learn to love unconditionally like 1Corinthians 13 says, or I just might be single the rest of my life.
P.S. Are you ignoring the e-mail I sent you. Think about what I was offering.
I am sorry to hear about the attack of the crazy female. You know, we all have our days. Of course, I am shocked that she didn't understand your explanation about the stress involved in coordinating a service such as yours, but sometimes women of advanced years just don't get technology. I thought you handled it fine, but then again, I know you and have never felt belittled by you....well, at least not since late junior high/early high school. And we really can't hold those horrendous years against anyone. I hope that things smooth out for you!
Andrea
P.P.S. CJ and I are finally reading the books you sent. He actually liked the first one....amazing coming from a man who does not read.
Ohh and on side note (which should actually probably be the main note), I am not taken back by the conversation I had with her in relation to her initial complaint (as I can totally understand people not understanding technology and what it takes to put on a production), what I have a hard time with is the (to me) illogical assumption that I should apologize for something I don't really mean, and intend to do again in the future. That's what I don't get.
At North Coast, we use an LED number system that works great. It's totally non-invasive and doesn't disrupt the service, but is easily obvious to the parents who are keeping an eye out for it. Plus, it's completely activated by the child care volunteers.
I agree. Women are all crazy.
I just happen to have embraced my craziness. I expect everyone else to embrace it as well.
...I'll let you know how that works out.
I think this story epitomizes how women look at their professional lives differently than men. They want to be friends with everyone they work with, and they look at their professional relationships like friendships.
I think that's appropriate sometimes, but I've been told in my professional relationships exactly what needed to happen to make things run smoothly, and I manned up and took it. It's business. It's not friendship.
There's a difference between treating someone *respectfully* and treating someone like they're your friend. The only thing that is expected of you in the workplace is the former, although the latter is a bonus that is always nice to have if you can have it.
The problem is that when you expect the latter at all times, situations like this arise. I react in the same way you do, Andy.
*Thus endeth the rant*
I honestly can't bring anything against this blog because it's true - woman are crazy! But unlike the truly crazy, we know that we are crazy, thus making us all the more crazy!
PS. You don't have to move back to IN! CA would take you too :) Thus you could move in with... Wait, I don't know if you have any single friends left in CA because they all seem to be getting married in the next couple months. Never mind - move to IN!
But ya know - that was kind of "abrupt" and I'm kind of hurt you responded to my comment with another comment, I figured you would call! Maybe we should set up a meeting to talk about this :)
You might have to have another meeting.
I dont know about this whole training thing,
but sarah gave me this little bell...
http://abclocal.go.com/wjrt/story?section=nation_world&id=5007045
Since women tend to be significantly more religious than men you have statistical advantage there. Living in the Bible Belt does not hurt either.
So I am sure you will find a nice fundy girl for yourself...