This past weekend, I actually freed a couple of hours to do one of my favorite things: sit at the pool. It has all the great elements. Outside, yet not strenuous. Stress-free. And most importantly, usually involves a bunch of friends sitting around talking.

This weekend, myself and four girl-friends (yes, I am always outnumbered and it isn't as "cool" as it sounds, but I digress) of mine were out there. Like Stephen Colbert, I don't like to read. Why would you want to ruin a perfectly good day at the pool by "boring-it-up" by reading. But nevertheless, my friends sure do. So they brought books, magazines, etc...

One magazine in particular was People. This week it featured (among others) Matthew McConaughey, who, these particular group of girls have quite the crush on. As they passed along the magazine, comments began to fly out of their mouths, "ohh check out this picture," to which the response back would be, "ohh just wait, it gets better."

Now it is at this point that I had to speak up. But I should add this disclaimer, I am not a jealous person, nor do I look to Matthew as what I aspire to be as a man. So my line of questioning that followed was purely inquisitive in nature not stemming from any insecurity. Nevertheless, it was now that I piped up and asked, "if the roles were reversed and I were sitting here with a Maxim talking to my guy-friends, would you think that is appropriate?" The immediate response was, "no, because these guys have their cloths on." To which I responded, "why does that matter?"

And here is my point. Men and women (usually) are wired differently. What stimulates my desire for a woman/relationship is different than what stimulates a woman's desire for a man/relationship. Needless to say, all these magazines, whether cloths are on or not, exploit the wirings of men/women to create a false sense of expectation for a relationship. To which I say, I personally am not threatened by my friends lust over these magazine-men. However, all women need to look in the mirror and recognize their "appreciation" of these men and the sensitive facts of their lives shared in the magazines is the same thing as men's "lust" over the Maxim-women. To say otherwise is hypocrisy, whether by the pool or not.

P.S. I should add that most of what I have said above was said to them in person, and this is not some attempt to take a cheap shot at them. In addition to that, all four of these girls are quality girls, of which, despite their momentary lapse of hypocrisy, I can say with the utmost confidence that this world would be a much better place if all woman lived up to the same standards as these four amazing women.